Here is another set...
The insecurities can be things like:
- Fears of STD's
- Performance anxiety
- Fear of judgement
This is why the territory of sex can feel very unstable and you might sabotage a connection with someone before you reach intimacy with that person.
The reason you sabotage your connection is because the challenge of intimacy is too high for you.
What's the solution with that one?
Sex education, training, therapy, etc!
Basically learning more about sex, developing new skills, healing open wounds and traumatic experiences, etc.