If you are a woman and your tantric sex partner is not aroused what do you do?
Suppose that his lingam is not erected.
Here is a simple but very powerful technique.
Many women will make the mistake of being too dynamic or intense right there.
They will try to massage him with intensity or use oral stimulation the fast way.
Be way softer!
Here is what you can do.
Simply lay next to him and put your head on his belly facing his lingam. Gently give his lingam a few kisses.
Use the tip of your tongue very slowly to touch his lingam here and there.
Do this playfully and gently.
After maybe 30 sec of this foreplay, take his lingam in your mouth and simply keep it there without moving anything at all.
Lay your head on his belly and stay like that without moving.
Rest like that together for a few minutes if needed.
There is absolutely no rush.
Every now and then, while his lingam is still in your mouth, you can move your tongue just a tiny bit and touch his lingam either with your flat tongue or just with the tip.
Then rest again and stop moving while you keep his lingam in your mouth.
Every now and then, do this again and move your tongue again just to gently touch him just for a couple of seconds.
To ad variation, instead of using your tongue, you can as well slightly pressure his lingam with our lips.
Or you can do both: lips very slight pressure and playful touch with your tongue.
Only move your lips or tongue for a couple sec every now and then.
You want to stay totally still during most of this practice with absolutely no movement.
For instance, you can stay totally still for 30 sec and then give him this very light tongue stimulation for just a couple of sec and stop.
Then stay still for maybe 10 sec, light stimulation and stop.
Then still for maybe 40 sec, light stimulation and stop.
Don't let him predict when you will give him this bit of extra stimulation. Following your own rhythm and variating intervals makes it very playful.
This is incredibly arousing for a guy.
Very often, you will naturally feel his lingam growing in your mouth.
Simply stay there and when you feel him responding, while you still have his lingam in your mouth, intensify a bit the play with your tongue and pressure with your lips.
That's like welcoming him in the erected and aroused state.
If your partner faces erection problems, do this next time you lay in bed with him.
Simply tell him: "There is something I want to do... Trust me..."
This is it!
By the way, this is one of the core lingam kissing techniques you can use.
You don't need to have an erection challenge to use it with your partner of course!
Your partner will be absolutely delighted if you use this powerful stimulation technique with him.